Tantra in its essence is the experience of two beloveds meeting, melting and merging with each other.

They are enjoying, healing and transforming each other. What is surprising is that we need to learn how to do this. When you first fall in love, it seems so obvious and so simple that you are going to spend the rest of your lives together going deeper and deeper into this precious experience.

What happens?
What goes wrong?

The problem lies in our expectations. Each expects the other to fulfill their dreams. And when they don’t, … watch out! Lovers don’t like to be disappointed. Once in a while, two people meet who are perfectly aligned to each other and so naturally fulfill one another. Otherwise, the moment will arise when it is more important to be right than to be heartful.

One possibility is to drop our expectations, to stop wanting anything of the other, to fall into a deep acceptance. However, just as most of us do not know how to love and accept ourselves, neither do we know how to recognise and accept the beloved in that person across the breakfast table. Until we do, there is Tantra.

Tantra is the art of aligning with the other and it makes it far easier to enjoy and ultimately to accept each other.

The Tantra we will be exploring in couple sessions and introductory workshops is nothing to be afraid of. It does not involve taking your clothes off, although it will lead into beautiful experiences of love-making when you get home.

The exercises are designed to re-establish that deep sense of togetherness and intimacy that we knew when we first fell in love. This time, that togetherness will have a new maturity, a deepening that will endure.

Sudeva and Subhi, who present this work, have themselves been exploring Tantra for many years. Since they met, they have been able to continue this exploration together. It has led them into new dimensions of love and oneness.

Along the way, there have been plenty of difficulties. It is exactly in finding the way through these difficulties that they have learnt how to communicate these new possibilities, new ways of loving one another. New skies open up to fly in when you include Tantra in your love life.

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First, one of you lies down and becomes ready to receive. The other begins very gently to caress the receptive one. Move the hands slowly, saying once in a while, “While being caressed sweet princess (or sweet prince), enter the caress as everlasting life.” The intent is not to arouse the other but to convey love through one’s touch.
The caressing continues for about twenty minutes, covering the skin from the tip of the toes to the top of the head. Then sit silently for a while until the receiver is ready to come back. If you like, you can exchange roles.

Become the loving, become the caress. Forget yourself so totally that you can say, "I am no more. Only love exists." Then the heart is not beating but love is beating. Then the blood is not circulating, love is circulating. And eyes are not seeing, love is seeing. Then hands are not moving to touch, love is moving to touch. Become love and enter everlasting life. Love can become a deep meditation -- the deepest possible. Lovers have known sometimes what saints have not known.

On the more mundane level, when you exchange this experience regularly it will help with issues such as premature ejaculation, impotence or a lack of arousal in either partner. Sensitivity and pleasure are awakened without any need for man or woman to perform and this creates a deep sense of relaxation, which can be taken into the love-making.

This meditation is adapted from the Vigyan Bhairav Tantra by Osho.